Adjusting to life with a new baby is hard. It can be your first, second, or third (or even sixth!), and everyone has to get used to a new routine and a new little person hanging around the house. For me, this adjustment has been especially difficult.
In the past month between DJ, Sabrina, and I, we have had a 3-day hospital stay, an ultrasound, a wellness check up, a kidney function test, an ENT consultation, a tongue tie release surgery, and an emergency room visit for my spinal headache. Not to mention grocery shopping and running errands... Life is quite busy! Just next week I have my post partum check-up, DJ has an appointment to make sure his tongue is healing well, and we have a WIC appointment (all crammed into 2 days!). Next month Sabrina will have her MRI, her two month check up, and then shortly after those are done David graduates his course and we will be moving! And I really need to finish 4 crochet projects and Sabrina's cabinet refinishing before we depart.
It seems like life will never stop, slow down, or give me a chance to catch my breath. It leaves me longing for a day that I can completely call my own. No one depending one me, no crying children, no cooking, no cleaning... A day to do whatever I want, on my own schedule, when I want.
Fat chance.
For now I will sneak in quiet time when both kids are napping. I'll read a book in snippets while Sabrina is nursing. I will crochet at night, when Sabrina and DJ are tucked in for the night. I'll order pizza once in a while to give myself a break, or leave the dishes until the next morning. I'll snuggle with David when we both get in bed, and try to spend time with him while children aren't around.
Finding time to still be me and enjoy my hobbies is crucial for a SAHM (and any Momma for that matter). Showering every day, putting on real clothes, attempting to make myself look presentable - These things are vitally important to not losing who I am in the midst of being Momma to two adorable children. Maintaining my relationship with my Husband is crucial as well. Making sure that we spend intimate time together will make me a happier woman, and a better Mother to my kids. I need to take care of myself and be healthy before I can adequately care for anyone else, which means I have to make time to eat regularly and well. I have to feel good about myself, so that mentally I am up for the challenge of adjusting our lives to include a new human being.
No one said this was going to be easy. It isn't. But being a Mother is something I wouldn't trade for anything.
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